A couple weeks ago after reading some Scripture in the morning, I wrote about it. I do this most days, where I copy down some of the verses I read and journal a little based on them. This day’s writing wasn’t like most days. I wrote to the bottom of my page and realized I couldn’t stop. After finishing I thought some others might be encouraged by what I’d written. So here I’m sharing that passage from Luke and my journal entry with you. I had to stop myself from cleaning it up and editing/revising it to make it all nice for publication, so take it as it is. I hope this encourages you! The particular passage here is when Mary discovers she’s going to have Jesus, the Messiah God promised generations ago, and she breaks into worship:

“Blessed be the Lord God of Israel, for he has visited and redeemed his people and has raised up a horn of salvation for us in the house of his servant David, as he spoke by the mouth of his holy prophets from of old, that we should be saved from our enemies and from the hand of all who hate us; to show the mercy promised to our fathers and to remember his holy covenant, the oath that he swore to our father Abraham, to grant us that we, being delivered from the hand of our enemies, might serve him without fear, in holiness and righteousness before him all our days.”

Luke 1:68-75 (ESV)

How exciting and awe-inspiring it must have been for Zechariah, Elizabeth, Mary, and those around them to see this and be part of it. After hundreds of years and many generations of silence, God begins to unfold to them His plan for salvation, to reveal His faithfulness to His people in His own timing, and in their lifetime! With them very closely and personally involved! They must have wondered if God would ever act, send the Messiah, save His people, fulfill His promises to them. All of a sudden here it is, and it’s going to be so much more than they could’ve possibly imagined.

The scope of His redemption and plan to call people to Himself, the way He would save us, the Kingdom of God’s counter-intuitive and unexpected nature – it was more magnificent (and probably to some degree, even or maybe especially for these three, as Jesus’ life unfolded), hard to accept. God, You are good and perfect and the only truly faithful One. Thank You for calling an outsider like me into this.

Even in their praise, Mary and Zechariah had such incomplete understanding of what would happen. They knew God was taking action, implementing His promised plan to send a Messiah, redeem His people, and fulfill His covenant to Abraham. They were beside themselves with joy and gratitude and exploded into worship. I think what was coming next would be more painful, difficult, and gut-wrenching than they could’ve imagined. The rejection, suffering, pain, mistreatment, and misunderstandings their sons would endure must have caused some doubt. I would’ve wondered if I just hallucinated the events of Luke 1 as John was acting like a wild prophet, then was thrown in prison and beheaded. Mary urging Jesus to do something at the wedding in Cana shows she believed He would do something miraculous or reveal Himself as the Messiah, even after so many years of growing up in obscurity. As His ministry continued and Jesus stirred up so many people, seemingly blasphemed, apparently performed miracles, had a following – what ran through her heart and mind?

The glorious coming of the Messiah was so unlike her expectations, it seems she even doubted Him or thought He was losing His mind a bit at one point. I don’t want to presume or ascribe thoughts and feelings to Mary that weren’t there. I think as a human, a mother, a faithful servant of and believer in God, she must have had some feelings and thoughts like this. Her son gathers a ragtag, mostly uneducated group and a crowd follows Him around. He angers the religious leaders and claims to be God. He isn’t a handsome, charismatic, physically imposing King or warrior ready to crush His enemies, defeat the Roman oppressors, and put the Jewish people in charge. He was humble, kind, taught revolutionary things about what it meant to fulfill the Law and obey God. He claimed to be the Messiah and even God Himself. Even through the eyes of a hopeful, faithful mother, it must have caused doubts, questions, and pain in Mary. And without a doubt, seeing her son arrested, beaten, tortured, humiliated, crucified, and killed would’ve devastated her. I can’t fathom what must have been running through her heart, mind, and soul as she wept at the foot of the cross. Absolutely devastating, crushing, excruciating. As a mother, as a Jew believing the Messiah had come. “Where did I go wrong,” she might have thought. “Is this my fault? Did I push him down this road and make him lose his mind? Did I imagine that angel at the beginning?” She may not have asked these questions, but I know I would have. His disciples and the crowd following Him must have.

Something that began as a miraculous intervention by God, fulfilling His promise to save His people, seemed to end in hopeless, crushing defeat and disillusionment. What lostness they must have felt as they gathered together in the aftermath.

Jesus’ teaching even included God’s intention to bring Gentiles into His people, invite them into the covenant promises He’d made to Abraham. That upset, angered, and offended so many. Could all of this really be God’s faithful plan to redeem His people? It had to seem impossible. Mary, the disciples, Jesus’ close friends and followers, were so joyful and hopeful about the future. They saw their dreams being fulfilled in front of their eyes, they were right there participating. But along the way it got weirder, offensive, and as they somehow clung to Jesus it all came crashing down.

But on the third day, Jesus rises from the dead! Unimaginably wonderful, joy-giving, faith restoring news! The whole world had to seem new. Confusing, magnificent, exciting, mysterious, glorious. Then Jesus’ appearances, the Great Commission, His Ascension, the coming of the Holy Spirit at Pentecost, and the painful persecution as the early church grew from there. This is a story only God could write, a redemption more expansive than anyone could hope for (or even really want, in our sinful judgmental hearts). It turns out God is truly greater than us, and works through means we don’t expect, often don’t want, can seem wrong of offensive – and through all this works out His will and plan, which are good beyond anything we could imagine. We can think we really understand, but God is capable of more than we can dream. His character of love, grace, and tender care are displayed on the cross. We can trust Him.

I stopped at the bottom of the first page I wrote, intending to end there. I prayed and felt like I needed to keep writing, thinking through what God might be trying to show me here. There are clear parallels in principle to the trials my family and I are going through. It felt like going more slowly through Mary’s experience (and Zechariah and Elizabeth, and then those near Jesus) was the right thing to do. Lord, teach me what You want to teach me. Give me faith like Mary’s, enable me to remember Your character and how You work. I want to have hopeful, joyful, persevering faith in You, to trust You, no matter how dark things look or how lost I feel. I trust You with my life, Janelle’s, Belle’s, Juliette’s, and Fiona’s. You are able, Your plans are for my good, You are working to ends more wonderful than my most delusional dreams.

After two years of silence on this page, I’m back! I’ve got another update on my health for those of you who are keeping track. A lot has happened over the past two years that I haven’t written about, but the recent developments are significant enough for me to share more about. I can’t help but be a bit too wordy but I’ll do my best to be concise.

I learned recently that my most recent MRI shows that my tumor is growing again. A quick review…back in 2019 after almost two years of not growing, the tumor started growing again. We tried a round of chemo in early 2019 but stopped after one cycle and opted to do a not-too-invasive biopsy surgery to get a clearer picture of the tumor. Through that we learned the tumor had progressed to Grade 3 (fast growing) from Grade 2 (slow growing). I spent part of 2019 and most of 2020 on chemotherapy. I also got IV infusions of Avastin every three weeks to try to treat the tumor. I’m still on Avastin and have been getting MRIs every 2-3 months to monitor the tumor.

My April MRI compared to my January MRI clearly shows the tumor growing. A group of doctors reviewed it and agreed the aggressive growth warranted quick and aggressive treatment. They estimated that if I were to stop all treatment immediately, I’d likely have 4-6 months to live. I’ll be starting radiation treatment sometime next week, and that will be followed either by chemotherapy or immunotherapy depending on how things go. Our goal is to stop the tumor’s growth again.

Obviously this is pretty hard to hear. Personally I feel much more like I’m on a countdown timer than I did before. There’s a lot of processing yet to be done. I still firmly believe God is ultimately in control, and that He is working everything together for my good. His timeline isn’t the timeline I would want, but I am trying and learning to trust Him. Some days it’s easier than others, but I know God is meeting Janelle and I, and walking with us through this. We are still getting a deeper understanding of what it means for Him to be good and to be present with us.

I have said from the start that my greatest need isn’t healing, it’s Jesus. I have gotten more of Him, and am getting more still now. It hurts, and it’s in my pain that I’m finding more of Him. I hope, over the next several months, to write more about that. For today I’ll just say I am finding encouragement, strength, and comfort in 1 Peter 4:19, which says:

“Therefore let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good.” – 1 Peter 4:19 (ESV)

For those of you that pray, please continue to pray for my family. So many of you have been much more faithful in prayer for me than I have. It’s incredible, and yet another way God shows me how I am loved, and not alone. This is very hard on Janelle and my children. They’ve had to deal with so much, and this is yet another hit for them. Please pray for their precious hearts to find comfort in Jesus and to somehow know it’s from Him. Janelle carries such a burden. Please pray for her to know Jesus is with her, too, and that our future is in His capable hands. For me, I want to be healed, but more than that I want to be faithful to His call and purpose for my life. He’s giving me more assurance that He is with me and loves me in ways I never imagined could be true. I’m so grateful for that. I also want to see how I can be faithful, trust myself and my family to Him, and do good, right now.

No news was good news

It’s been almost two years since I last said anything about my health. It’s been a very good two years cancer-wise! I’ve mostly felt like myself, and have had a lot of the benefits and blessings of cancer without many of the drawbacks. God has been growing me and giving me a greater appreciation for my life. I have come to see Him as more magnificent, more loving, more powerful, and more gracious than I thought before.

Every few months I went in to get an MRI to make sure the tumor wasn’t growing and I’d thank God for the life He’s given me. There was something healthy for my heart to have this regular reminder of my mortality. I felt like I had a new lease on life every time I drove away from another appointment with my oncologist with an “it’s not growing” report. The radiation did its job and I haven’t suffered many side effects. The tumor even shrank some from the radiation. I meant to write a post about that but never got around to it. God has been so gracious to me over the last couple years.

So now I’m writing because my most recent scan brought some unwelcome news. It appears my tumor is growing again. Last week I had my regular MRI but instead of “it looks good” my doctor was concerned by what she saw. A spot that looked like typical radiation after-effects had grown and changed, and it looks like tumor growth. Several other doctors and one other test affirmed my doctor’s suspicion. It looks like my tumor is growing again in a sensitive spot on my corpus callosum. That’s the part of your brain that joins the left and right hemispheres together.

Here’s what’s next

We spent some time looking into our options and the best one is for me to start chemotherapy again. I’m starting this upcoming Monday on two chemo meds that are different from the one I used before. They’re considered “well tolerated” so the hope is they won’t do much more than make me tired like the last one did.

The plan is to start with 3-4 cycles of chemo (each cycle being 6 weeks) depending on how it’s working and affecting me. We’ll get very frequent MRIs to see how things are going. That’s basically it. I’m going to keep working as much as I can.

Here’s what I know

This is a bit of a surprise, but not a shock. I expected at some point I’d get a scan like this. I hoped it would be later, I just actually started to believe it might be much later. Through this entire journey though, what is being solidified in my heart and mind is this: God is good. These are words I’ve said most of my life, but they carry such greater power and dimension than they used to.

I know this is already a bit long so I’ll wrap it up. I know I get long-winded. But I want to share a couple passages from Scripture that God used to encourage me in the days leading up to my scan. I didn’t know this was coming, but these are the truths God was cementing in my heart to prepare me for this next chapter:

Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.”

James 1:12 (ESV)

…yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. Instead you ought to say, ‘If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or do that.’

James 4:14 (ESV)

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you, who by God’s power are being guarded through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, so that the tested genuineness of your faith – more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire – may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ. Though you have not seen him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, obtaining the outcome of your faith, the salvation of your souls… Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ.

1 Peter 1:3-9, 13 (ESV)

I believe these words to be true. My hope is fully set on Jesus. I have an imperishable, unfading inheritance waiting for me. It is only because of what Jesus did that I have anything good, or that I can face this next chapter with hope. I want to stay, I want to be healthy, I want to be here with and for my family. But my hope is not in my health, it is in my Savior.

The hardest part for me, right now, is trusting Jesus with my family. I want them to see Jesus the way I do…to see Him as more beautiful than I see Him. I don’t want them to walk through heartbreak and pain. But I know these things reveal God’s graciousness to us in new ways.

If you pray, please pray for the treatment to work with minimal side effects, for Janelle and the girls to find hope in Jesus, and for God to be glorified through my story.

Lately I’ve been asked about my treatment a number of times and realized I never provided another update after my radiation finished. I don’t want to be a broken record or assume everyone cares about every update, and there isn’t much news to report, but I figured I could post a short one for those interested or wondering.

I did radiation treatment every weekday from 10/31/16 to 12/8/16, with Thanksgiving Day off. The only real side effect I experienced was fatigue (along with some hair loss on my head). I got more and more tired as time went on but never got nauseous or anything like that. In January we did an MRI to see what the radiation accomplished. The verdict was that the tumor was stable. It did not really shrink, but it did not grow either.

From there the plan is to do MRIs every 3 months to monitor the tumor. Because of the radiation the MRIs may be harder to read or show different weird artifacts. That means even if an upcoming MRI shows something weird we’ll likely have to do some more scans/test to figure out if we’re looking at an actual change in the tumor or just something due to radiation. My next MRI is next week, April 12th. If anything changes I’ll probably post another update. If you hear nothing, that means nothing exciting occurred.

I’d say right now I feel more normal than I have since my surgery in November 2015. I’m the farthest away from treatment I’ve been, and have more energy than I’ve had. It will be hard to figure out when the cognitive side effects from the radiation show up. Maybe you’ll be able to tell before I do. But for now I am enjoying being able to take walks with Janelle, play more with my kids, have more energy for work, and be more normal. Thanks for your prayers and caring!

Do you know how when you see someone every day, you don’t notice changes very quickly? Then when someone else who hasn’t seem them in a while comes up and points out a change, you realize it was right there and you hadn’t seen it? Or maybe like me you see a picture of yourself and think “have I really gained that much weight? Something must be wrong with that camera!”

This is what has happened with my tumor. After June’s course of chemotherapy we went into a monitoring mode. It didn’t look like the tumor was changing, and there was no probably benefit from continuing with chemotherapy from that point. The plan was to watch the tumor with MRIs every eight or so weeks, and move to radiation if and when it showed growth.

September’s MRI showed a new spot, but it wasn’t the kind of growth you’d expect from a tumor. It wasn’t visibly connected to the existing tumor. Because of this, we moved my next MRI up to see how this new spot would behave and to take a closer look. On October 17th I had this next MRI. The new spot was still there, so my doctors all took a closer look at the MRIs from the entire year. They reviewed the January through October MRIs and four doctors came to the same conclusion: over the course of 2016, my tumor has clearly grown. They all agreed that now would be a smart time to move to radiation treatment.

So that’s what I’m doing. My first treatment will be October 31st, and from there it will be five days a week for about six weeks. The treatments themselves will be short and painless, about 30 minutes from the time I walk in to the time I walk out. It will feel like getting an x-ray. The short-term side effects I should expect are fatigue and hair loss, with some minor skin irritation too. The fatigue and weakness should go away within a few months of the treatment ending.

The risk with radiation for me has always really been in the long-term effects. Because of the size and location of my tumor, there will be some permanent side effects with my memory and thinking ability. Those will take some more time to manifest (starting two months after treatment ends, and popping up anytime after that), and their severity is impossible to predict. It’s really these permanent side effects that I am most concerned with when it comes to the radiation. So if you are praying for me, please pray for them to be limited, and for me to trust God through them.

God has been doing a lot in me these last months that I want to share. I want to have the discipline to post a few of the things that have been going on in me, so hopefully I’ll do that soon. But I wanted to share this news publicly first, so here it is without any real reflection. What I can say shorthand right now is that I know that now, as ever, God is in control. He is using this and will use it for good purpose. He is good and does what is good, all the time. That has not changed and never will, whatever my health.

Thank you all for being on this journey with me!

I haven’t sent out an update on my health since May, and in the last month something changed, so I want to share an update with those of you interested.

In June I finished my eighth round of chemotherapy, and in July had my every-two-month MRI. The MRI showed what we expected – no change in the tumor. So at this point I’ve been on chemo since December, through eight rounds, and the tumor hasn’t grown or shrunk. With those results, there isn’t evidence that continuing chemo beyond eight months would produce beneficial results. We don’t know how much of the tumor is alive, or how much it would have grown without the chemo. It’s not considered a failure by the chemo, but we don’t know what we got from it exactly. (Though I’m learning you can never be too exact with this stuff. There’s so much variation, and so many variables.)

As I shared in my last update, the plan if this MRI showed the tumor being the same was to take a break from chemo and move to monitoring the tumor with every-two-month MRIs. After this most recent MRI we did take a serious look at radiation at the request of my doctor – she wanted to make sure we thought it through and got as much as information as possible before making a decision about what to do next. So I talked to a few more doctors, including a very well-known and respected neuro-oncologist, and we ended up with the same decision: take a break from treatment and monitor the tumor.

If and when it grows again (statistically speaking it will grow again, it’s just a question of when – months or years) we will start radiation treatment, or possibly something else if something else has been developed. We want to put off radiation because the size of my tumor and its location means that radiation will lead to some serious, permanent side effects. As of now there is only chemo and radiation, and chemo has taken its best shot for now.

It’s been almost two months without chemo and I feel noticeably better physically. I have a lot more energy than I did. I know I’m still recovering, but I feel better now than I have since before my surgery. I also don’t miss having to go in twice a month for blood tests. I know there is more fighting to be done, but I am happy for this reprieve right now.

I also want to say I am so grateful for the way so many of you continue to pray for me and my family. Many of you are more faithful in praying for my healing than I am. Thank you for the way you remind me that we are loved by others, and by God.

It’s been a while since I’ve posted an update, and many people have asked how I’m doing. In general I haven’t posted any updates because nothing much has changed. But as someone told me, even that information is an update. So here is the latest about my cancer treatment and what’s coming next.

I have been on chemotherapy since December, taking it every month. Every two months I get an MRI to see how the tumor is doing. My last MRI was this past Monday, May 23rd. That MRI looked the same as the March and January ones. The tumor is stable, and not growing. We’d prefer to see it shrinking, but not growing is better than growing. An MRI can’t differentiate between living and dead tumor cells, so we don’t know how much of the tumor is dead, and there’s no way to know.

This week I am doing my seventh round of chemo, and I will do my eighth in June. My next MRI will come in July. If the tumor starts to grow, we will immediately start radiation. If the tumor is stable, I have a few options, but I’ll just share the most likely scenario.

The most likely scenario is that if the tumor is still stable in July, I will take a break from chemo and not start radiation. We’ll probably avoid radiation because of the size (big) and location (temporal lobe) of my tumor. The temporal lobe is involved in memory, language, emotion, processing audio/visual input…lots of important stuff. The amount of radiation required to treat my tumor will almost certainly damage my temporal lobe and result in significant impairment of some kind. So we want to avoid that.

If July’s MRI is clean we will probably move to monitoring the tumor with every-two-month MRIs. When it starts to grow again (which is certain, barring a miracle), we will resume some kind of treatment. That treatment will depend on how long the tumor was stable. It could start growing in a couple months, or it could take years (possibly as many as 10) for it to start growing again. It would be great if in the interim some new treatments become available, because as of now they are limited to chemo and radiation, and existing chemo has taken its best shot, while existing radiation will probably have the effects listed above.

That’s all there is to report. Thank you so much to the many of you who are so faithfully praying for me and caring for my family. This would be a completely different journey without the love of God being shown to us through you.

For this week, here’s some good stuff on marriage, singleness, God speaking, Advent, and some excellent videos on the Bible.

• Jon Bloom – Lay Aside the Weight of Low Self Image. I’ve struggled with both arrogance and a low self-image for most of my life. This article provides help with both and shows how they can be two sides of the same self-focused coin.
• Nicole Chung – What Goes Through Your Mind: On Nice Parties and Casual Racism. I am still learning how much I have to learn about the experiences of people who aren’t me. This article is a very well-written account of a woman experiencing casual racism at a party, and all the things that run through her mind on how to try to handle it. There’s much more going on than many of us realize.
• Vaneetha Rendall – It’s Better to Have a Trouble. A woman with a significant illness writes about how she deals with the suffering and sees God working through it.
• Carey Nieuwhof – 25 Random Pieces of Advice for Leaders in their 20s, 30s, and 40s. He has one of the hardest names to spell, but Carey Nieuwhof is a pastor I’ve learned a lot of good stuff from over the last couple years. This list is very much worth reading.
• Lifehacker Top Personal Finance Post of 2015. Lifehacker has a ton of good practical content, and here’s a collection of their best personal finance posts from last year.

For those interested, I wanted to share a quick update on my health since I haven’t done so since I started chemotherapy.

In general I’m feeling fine; my biggest complaint is being low-energy and feeling tired most of the time. I simply don’t have the physical, mental, or emotional energy I used to have and it’s noticeable to me. Part of this is that I’m still recovering from surgery, part of it is the chemotherapy.  The weeks I take chemo the fatigue is much worse than other weeks.

I’m mostly back at work, just without the energy or stamina I had before. It’s good, though, to be back at it and doing what I can.

There are all sorts of side effects I could experience from the chemo but basically I’m just fatigued, which I’ll take instead of many of the others. I am hoping and praying that my energy will continue to increase and I’ll start to get stronger.

The plan is for me to get an MRI every two months to check on the tumor. If the tumor is staying the same or shrinking, that is good news. If it’s growing, that is bad news and we will almost certainly add radiation to the treatment plan. Today I had my first MRI and the results showed that the tumor hasn’t changed much since the surgery. It’s a little difficult to tell because my brain was swollen and stuff was pushed around right after the surgery, so comparing the four-month MRI to this two-month MRI will provide us with clearer results. But according to the radiologist and my oncologist, it looks like for the most part the tumor has stayed the same since the surgery.

I will continue on the chemotherapy and in two more months we’ll get another MRI; if in that the tumor is still the same or has shrunk, we’ll continue the chemo another two months. If it’s growing then we will look at other treatment options, most likely radiation first.

For those of you praying for me – thank you so much. Please keep them up! And thank you for the love.